Handling people with high ego.

Dealing with people who appear arrogant, loud, or overly prideful can be draining—whether at work, in family, or in relationships. But behind the glitter and forcefully projected light often lies low self-esteem and deep insecurity.

What seems like confidence is often a protective shield for wounds and self-doubt. These individuals seek validation, approval, and reassurance by projecting their energy strongly onto others.

Understanding this truth is the first step to handling them with wisdom instead of reacting emotionally.

1. Recognize the Energy for What It Is

When you see someone shouting to be noticed or pushing to be followed, pause and see the energy, not the person.

• This is not about you.

• It is about their internal wounds and need for validation.

Example: A colleague boasting constantly about achievements is not belittling you; they are covering their own insecurity.

2. Don’t Take It Personally

Their behavior has nothing to do with your value. Resist the urge to feel inferior or minimized.

3. Stay Grounded and Silent

Silence is a powerful tool. You don’t have to engage, argue, or prove yourself.

• Stay grounded in your own self-worth.

• Give them space to rise and fall in their own cycle, just like the sun in the sky or a baby’s cry—it starts loud, then naturally quiets.

4. Don’t Feed the Ego

Avoid:

• Subordinating yourself

• Minimizing your worth

• Giving up your values to please them

Example: If someone demands constant praise, giving it excessively will only fuel their ego and create a repeating pattern.

5. Respond Mentally, Not Emotionally

Keep your emotional energy intact. Instead, use reflective questioning:

• “Why do you think so?”

• “What do you mean by that?”

• “I don’t see it that way.”

This keeps the conversation logical and prevents you from being pulled into emotional drama.

6. Remember: Ego Is Universal

You also have an ego. You may express it differently—in your comfort zone, with loved ones, or when protecting your core values. Recognizing this balance helps you remain compassionate instead of judgmental.

7. See Them as a Teacher

Every difficult person is a mirror. They may be teaching you to:

• Be more confident

• Set stronger boundaries

• Own a trait you’ve disowned

After an encounter, ask yourself:

“What is this person here to teach me?”

Write down the benefits you gained from the experience until you can sincerely say:

“Thank you, I am grateful.”

If gratitude is not reached, the pattern may repeat, attracting similar people until your consciousness grows.

Dr. John Demartini’s Methodology on High Ego

Dr. John Demartini, a renowned human behavior specialist, emphasizes that people with a “high ego” are often living through their perceived highest values. They express themselves strongly in areas most important to them.

According to Demartini:

• Ego is not the enemy; it’s feedback. When someone exaggerates, they reveal where they feel most insecure or unbalanced.

• Don’t collapse or confront—instead, center yourself in your own values.

• By asking quality questions (like “How does this trait serve me?” or “Where do I express this in my life?”), you reclaim balance instead of being dominated.

• Over time, this shifts the dynamic: they may reflect on their own behavior, while you grow stronger in your values.

Example: If a manager dominates meetings with arrogance, instead of shrinking, Demartini suggests grounding in your own expertise and calmly contributing without emotionally reacting. This demonstrates equilibrium, not submission.

Final Thought

Handling people with high ego is not about defeating them—it’s about mastering your own energy, protecting your values, and using the interaction for personal growth.

When you don’t feed the drama, you create the space for reflection, growth, and even transformation—for both of you.

/// If you believe you you are dealing with such personality and stifling in balancing it in you mind or spotted a repeated pattern about that in life ..

Bare yourself a therapy exploring session with me.

Call: +201062636343

Session are held in clinic in Egypt and online through zoom.